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Robert and Patricia: An Inseparable Bond

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For 57-year-old Robert,* his mother Patricia* is his biggest advocate, always working to ensure he has every opportunity to lead a full and happy life. As Robert’s primary caregiver at 99 years old, her fervor and dedication have not diminished.

When Robert was diagnosed with dementia in 2011, his family searched for help and were referred to Advocates Adult Family Care (AFC) program. Supporting Robert at home for as long as possible is Patricia’s greatest wish.

Through AFC, families caring for a loved one at home find compassionate support, connections to community resources and other Advocates services, and receive a financial stipend. In addition to their AFC case manager and nurse, Patricia and Robert also have a strong family support system, with Robert’s sister Judy* and her husband always there to help when needed.

“The staff at Advocates have provided valuable information, support, and financial aid which mom never knew was available to her,” shared Robert’s sister Judy. “The financial stipend has been such a help and enabled mom to achieve her ‘mission’ of taking care of Robert,” said Judy.

Kristina Nassif, AFC registered nurse, finds it a joy to witness the connection between Robert and his mother. “They sit and sing together. They mostly do everything together. That is what struck me the most. Their inseparable bond,” Kristina shared.

Aside from Boston Crème doughnuts, music is one of Robert’s greatest passions, especially “The King” Elvis Presley. “He sings to his music tapes from his tape recorder every day,” says Judy. “He tells us he’s an entertainer and makes a lot of money singing. He loves an audience.”

The family bond is evident as Judy shares how proud she is of both Robert and Patricia.

“We’re proud of Rob’s life and accomplishments, which reflect mom’s love and devotion to him. He’s had a wonderful, happy life, and on mom’s more difficult days the family reminds her of that. Our family will continue to support mom in her mission to keep Robert with her until his or her passing, and we will increase our support if she needs us to.”

Patricia passed away in December 2021 at the age of 99, achieving her mission of caring for Robert until her passing. Robert passed away in February 2022. Judy takes comfort in knowing they are both at peace together.

*Names have been changed to protect the family’s privacy.

For families who are caring for a son or daughter with a disability or an aging loved one at home, Adult Family Care may be the right fit. Visit www.Advocates.org/AFC to learn more about AFC and eligibility requirements.